5 Questions to ask when you feel like a hot mess

Girl, I’ve been there. After a long week you're tired of the job you only like sometimes, the demands of relationships you can’t keep up with, the weight of wishing you had it all figured out a little bit more.

It’s h e a v y. 

It’s even heavier because you feel like you have to carry the weight alone, or I should say, heavier because you’re hiding it.

Let’s face it, life’s messy, and pretending it’s peachy just messes it up even more! When you’ve come to the end of it all and start to wonder if it's you that's a mess, it’s time for some self-reflection.


  1. What do I need to thrive? (am I meeting my baseline needs like sleep, food, and a social life?!)
  2. What do I know to be true?
  3. What is one thing I could do today to remind me of who I am?
  4. Who would love me no matter what?
  5. Am I honoring the real me?

Some of the questions will make you think on honoring your baseline needs, while others take you a bit deeper and ask if your soul is thriving. Before you let yourself feel messed up, pause. Reflect on the 10 questions and embrace your messy life!


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