Trailblazers Episode 4 with Sarah Jo Crawford

I was fortunate enough to meet Sarah in college when we both worked as fitness instructors for the university. She was bright, bubbly, and easy to talk to. I had no idea at the time that Sarah was battling depression and bipolar 2. Heck, Sarah didn't even know. 

After college we went our separate ways, staying in touch through social media. Our relationship had been silent until she blogged about her bipolar. I was curious and started reaching her blog. Since then we have worked together in the professional setting, become business bestie, and are the kind of friends who can real talk, business, talk, and laugh like crazy people... maybe because we are crazy people? 

In this episode of Trailblazers, Sarah gets real about being diagnosed with bipolar, being hospitalized, and what self care has come to look like as she continues to thrive. Whether you have a mental illness, know someone who does, or just long for better self care practices, this interview is for you. 


Here are the nuggets of gold in Sarah's interview:

  • 5min launching a blog about bipolar
  • 10min Sarah's experience finding out she had bipolar 
  • 15min bipolar benefits according to Sarah
  • 21min you can't force anyone else to change, you can only love them
  • 24min using mental illness as a superpower 
  • 29min creating a unique self care toolbox 
  • 33min why resetting your nervous system is good for you (aka grounding)
  • 42min the importance of boundaries and how empaths have a harder time
  • 46min communicating your needs and boundaries
  • 49min how to know when you need to leave a relationship 
  • 50min "A boundary is only a boundary if you stick to it. If you don't, it's only a request."
  • 53min being open to feedback + who to get it from
  • 1hr 3min getting to the root of your unhealthy thoughts and patterns
  • 1hr 9min how Sarah gets shit done without setting goals

We mention the Invisibelia podcast, and we highly recommend it!

More about Sarah Jo:

After a Bipolar II diagnosis and many failed attempts at making a traditional job fit her moods, Sarah Jo began exploring how to work despite her illness. While on this journey, she began writing over at The Beloved Space, where she shared what she was learning about taking care of herself. The love, support, and general interest sparked the idea to take her message of mental stability into the corporate world.

Sarah works with corporate leaders, businesses, and bosses to create a safe, sustainable, and supportive work and personal life for their employee.  She consults these leaders through her Safe Space training in  hopes of making the workplace more accommodating for those with mental illness. (She's a bad ass).

Get more from Sarah here.

Sarah is also speaking this month at my local collaborative, The Bravery Board. Get your ticket here!


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    Understand your baseline needs and learn to thrive

    Understand your baseline needs and learn to thrive

    Have you ever noticed how pain often leads us to change?

    Discomfort in life is what drives us to do something different. Like symptoms of illness show us something is wrong, so do our emotions, meltdowns, stress, anxiety, thought life, and unhappiness. They can show us that something isn’t quite right in the health of our everyday living.

    When I overbook my days (which I have a tendency to do) I find that I become detached from my close relationships, being critical of myself, stressed, and overwhelmed.

    The symptom: negative thoughts, anxiety, and not living my best.

    The cause: not honoring my capacity and my baseline needs.

    The solution: uphold my healthy state by taking care of myself!

    When you are experiencing discomfort emotionally, seeing your less-than-best self come out, and feel overwhelmed with life, take a look at your baseline needs!

     

    "Your baseline needs are the basic needs you must meet in order to function as your best self. Baseline needs are not luxury, they are necessary!"
     
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    image by sarah stracke

    image by Sarah stracke

    image by Sarah stracke

    Here are a few steps you might find helpful:

    -FILL UP

    You cannot give from an empty cup! When you’re empty, you’re dry as a bone, you have nothing left to give. You already know this, so why don’t you do it?

    Because self-care can make us feel guilty.

    -DROP THE GUILT

    I know how self-care can feel: guilty, selfish, indulgent. Maybe beliefs come up to remind you that must put others before yourself or that you must be strong enough to not even need self -care!

    Both beliefs are false.

    Both beliefs are rooted in fear.

    Drop the guilt, drop the fear. Start to honor yourself! I promise your life will change, your moods will change, even your relationships will change.

    -KNOW YOUR BASELINE

    The start to honoring yourself is to actually know what you need.

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    Ask yourself:

    How much sleep do I need?

    How much alone time/friend time helps me thrive?

    What boundaries do I need to put in place?

    What do I need to feel like my healthy self?

    What makes me feel like crap?

     

     

    This isn’t extravagant stuff here, it’s practical. I’m talking sleep, food, working out, how you spend your time, conversations you have, and what you let your mind consume.

    -PRACTICE

    Simply knowing what works and what doesn’t work is not enough; you must practice. Practice, have grace, and keep practicing. You’ll be surprised that when you start to honor yourself, you’ll show up differently in every area of your life. Honor yourself. Meet your baseline needs. 

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    join the Tribe!

    I’m sending an email this week with a downloadable PDF to help you take your baseline needs a step further!