Free Iphone Wallpapers to Help Keep Your Mind Right + 3 ways to stay in your joy

FREE IPHONE WALLPAPERS TO HELP KEEP YOUR MIND RIGHT

Have you ever been through a season where it’s really difficult to find the good? 

I know I have. 

The truth is, there is a lot in the world that breaks my heart. There is dysfunction in my family that I can’t fix  and there are situations I’ve had to let go of simply because I can't carry the weight.

I've learned though that no matter what is happening around me, I have the power to create the state I long to live in! I am in control of me and only me, and that is all I need to feel good in my own life. 

I’m done living in a state of heaviness and helplessness. What good am I to the world if I can’t see the hope, the love, and the good I already have?! The change we want to see in our lives, in our families, and in the world must first happen inside of us. 

Living fully alive isn’t about denying the bad, it’s about seeing the whole picture; the good and the bad, the duality of life, and choosing to give your energy to what gives life, not takes life away.

Here are my 3 favorite ways to stay in my joy when life is tough (PLUS a free wallpaper download!):

1. TAKE OWNERSHIP OF ALL OF IT

Your life is up to you. Many people live as a victim (I used to). When you live like life is happening to you, life feels scary and out of control. You become powerless to the actions of others, to the government, and to circumstance. When you consciously take responsibility of every aspect in your life, both good and bad, all of your choices, and stop blaming, life becomes much lighter. You and you alone are responsible for you. This mentality changed everything for me.

2. STAY IN YOUR POWER

What are you giving your energy to? I fall into patterns of scrolling Facebook, reading headlines, and getting flustered before I realize I’ve gotten sucked into the funnel of negativity. Start being aware of where your energy is going; stay present! What conversations are you engaging in? What are you reading? What are you dwelling on? 

If you find yourself constantly telling the same story over and over, complaining, venting, and ruminating on what someone said to you, it’s time to take back your power and be present. 

3. MEDITATE ON THE GOOD 

I try to infuse my days with as much gratitude and good thoughts as possible. Our reality is shaped by our beliefs, so why not choose to believe life is happening for us!? To do this,  I repeat affirmations, I focus my mind on truth, and I leave myself reminders everywhere. 

Choose to meditate on the good and learn to have your own personal joy no matter what is happening around you. To help you get started, I have 4 iphone wallpapers to center you on the truth of who you really are! 

 

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My step-by-step process for setting goals that will make you feel amazing!

My step-by-step process for setting goals that will make you feel amazing!

Last week I had the amazing opportunity of being featured on the local news! (Thanks Fox 5 + Janelle Brandom!!)During the interview I dished out a few tips on setting and achieving goals, and in my true nature, I wanted to expand on what I said and give you a my “get shit done” process!

This is exactly how I go about setting goals and making to-do lists in my own life so I hope it is helpful for you!

First, discover what you really want!

You might think you want a promotion, to get a different degree, or lose 10 lbs… but there is always a deeper reason why, a deeper desire behind the goal. When I work with clients I always ask, “how will achieving that make you feel? What will be different about your life when you get to that point?” 

A few tips to get right to the heart of what you really (deep down) want:

From here, it’s easy to work backwards and set goals that honor the true you!

Then, make an actionable, simple plan! 

This is all about bridging where you are to where you want to be. Most people get overwhelmed and try to do a radical life change, mapping out their entire year and giving themselves way too much to do day 1. As the old saying goes, most people over-estimate what they can get done in a day and under-estimate what they can get done in a year!

At this point, you already know what you want your life to be like, and chances are, you know the kind of things you want to feel a year from now. Let’s pull it back and focus on making the next 3 months practical and aligned with your big vision. 

My actionable 3 by 3 method:

  • Make plans for 3 big projects/goals every 3 months (i.e. Quarterly goals)

  • Map out all your other big ideas + plans for the other 3 quarters of the year, then set them aside! This way you won’t forget them, but they won’t be a distraction from the task at hand!

  • Break down your 3-month goals into weekly tasks- 3 big tasks a week to be exact!

  • At the start of each week, write out a to-do list of 1-3 things you can do each day toward your goal!

 

I keep it to 3 because it’s simple and keeps me from overwhelm!  (There’s nothing more defeating than a to-do list you can’t ever get done!)  

 

To sum it up: get clear about who you are and what you really want. Then align your life by making simple changes; taking small, actionable steps every day. 

Things to remember as you make goals for yourself this year:

  • Success that doesn’t make you fulfilled isn’t success at all!
  • Changing too much at once leads to burnout- keep it simple + strategic
  • Life change is hard, don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help from an accountability partner, life coach, mentor, or friend!
  • You’re going to bomb from time to time. This is normal. Keep that shame-story far away and simply try again tomorrow!

I hope this was helpful to you! If so, go ahead and share with your girlfriends on Facebook! There’s nothing like having support from friends while you chase your dreams together. 

In love, Madison

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I achieved all my goals last year and feel no different. Here's why:

What if I told you that achieving all your goals would do absolutely nothing for you? 

Now, maybe that’s taking it a little far. I’m a goal-setter and goal-getter myself. I made and achieved all my big goals for 2016, blowing some out of the park. Yet, I feel exactly the same about myself. 

Why is that?

Achievement is temporary. Your new status, job, move, love interest, diet… it all will become your new normal and you will go back to how you felt before, unless you change from the inside out. 

It’s like the old saying, “everywhere you go, there you are again."

So, instead of asking yourself what you want to do in 2017, I beg you to ask yourself,

“How do I want to be in 2017? How to I want to feel? How do I want to live?"

I promise you a list of goals and resolutions will do nothing to change the way you feel in your life unless you change the way you do your life.

It all started with deeply knowing yourself, discovering yourself from the inside out, and aligning your life from that place- it’s an inside out kinda job! 

So, here’s my challenge to you.

Instead of making goals and resolutions as you begin 2017, give yourself 5 minutes a day for 31 days for reflection in the new + updated 2017 edition of the Come Alive Journal Guide! Start your year with self-care routine and a simple daily practice of self-awareness. I created a free resource to help you along the journey! The Come Alive Journal Guide gives 31 prompts to help you get totally centered and create goals unique designed for you in 2017. 

It’s time to come alive to the real you, to make goals from a place of love, and feel the way you really long to feel.

Join me and the rest of the Tribe in a 31 day challenge starting Jan 5 through the guide! Share your journey by tagging me and using the hashtag #comealiveguide on Instagram! Can’t wait to see how you Come Alive in 2017.

Cheers! 

EVER BEEN MANIPULATED? The #1 way I keep myself from being the victim of manipulation:

EVER BEEN MANIPULATED? The #1 way I keep myself from being the victim of manipulation:

A lot of blame get’s placed on manipulators. They are labeled as controlling, narcissistic, unhealthy, and bullies.  It’s fair to say, however, that at some point or another, many of us have been a manipulator, and many of us have been manipulated.

As someone who has been healed of chronic victim mentalities, I have come to understand that I played a large role in my manipulation, and now that I can see clearly, know how to not be manipulated.

Here is my #1 tip to keep yourself from being manipulated:

Know yourself.

Always, always start with yourself. If you are unsure of who you are, you will be easily swayed. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to get centered:

-What do I stand for?

-What are my core values? (discover yours in this free journaling guide)

-Who am I at my center?

-What are my opinions?

-What do I love? What do I hate?

Try to connect with people without needing anything from them. “Need-free” connection is such a healthy place to find yourself. When you show up and connect with people without needing to manipulate, control, or get them to “like” you, you can become immune to manipulation yourself.

“When you can totally accept yourself completely, right now, unconditionally, then you have foundation for self love. And when we can love ourselves as we are, it opens up an incredible space for need-free connection. Maturity is need-free connection.”  -Jesse Elder

Holding your own space and owning who you are is a must if you feel like you’re easily manipulated. It takes courage to find yourself, and it takes strength to stand your own when faced with hard decisions. But you will feel so much better when you stay true to yourself, your opinions, and are free from manipulation. You have the power to be a victor, not a victim. There is freedom in being unapologetically yourself.


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