Design a life you love + a free morning routine download!

Design a life you love + a free morning routine download!

Are you sick of chasing "perfect?"

When I first started my self-love journey, I modeled my life after the self-love big-wigs. I found mentors and coaches and gurus I thought were “living the dream life” and started adopting their practices. I took my coach’s advice, I read all the books, but always found myself falling away from the “perfect" way to live. 

I was so frustrated. I longed to live a holistic life where I loved myself, but the more I tried, the more I realized I was striving to achieve someone else’s idea of perfect instead of finding my own.

How do you define “perfect?” Notice how I didn’t ask how your coach, your mother, your mentor, or your best friend define it! 

THE TRUTH IS... You don’t need advice. You don’t need their idea of perfect. 

You need space to discover your own. Space to be you. Space to be heard. Space to discover your truth and what you already know. You need space to figure things out and discover what works for you. That’s what life coaching is all about.  Sure, I can give you advice, tools, and tell you what I’ve learned, but you don’t get to live my journey, you get to live your own. 

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If you’ve been trying to contort yourself into any other image of perfect besides your own, today I give you permission to let go.

Let go of striving and step into s p a c e. Let go of opinions and start to live your truth. (Someone will always have a difference of opinion, so why not just be you!?)

Instead of trying to live up to other people's idea of perfect, design a life you love. 

START HERE:

Design your own "perfect" morning routine and live your own version of a thriving life. 

After a few days of using the Morning Routine Creation Worksheet, let me know how it is going for you!

All my love.

-Madison

Stop playing small and create the life you love!

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3 Simple Ways to Stop Playing Small and Create a Life You Love

You’d be shocked at how small I can become. Like those skilled contortionists at the circus, I've molded myself into an ideal image I thought I was expected to uphold. I knew how to play the game, keep everyone smiling, keep everyone clapping.  

I tried to make everyone happy, lived for other people’s expectations, never asked questions, and avoided stirring the pot at all costs. 

"Play nice. Play your part. Play it safe. Play small."

I tried so damn hard to fit into a box; a box that I willingly jumped in, I might add!  

The prison of expectations and the shame for falling short was not something I could blame others for. I was the one who needed the approval. I was the one who wanted to have everything under control. I was the one playing so small…

That is until I decided to own my life, play to my strengths, and let go of the opinions of others. 

If you’re unsure where to start, here are MY 3  go-to tips to get aligned + come alive:

1. Get honest + put pen to paper! 

Journaling is one of the most effective ways to discover who we are, what we want, and coach ourselves through our mental blocks. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time either. Give yourself 5 minutes a day. The hardest part is just sitting down to do it! 

>> If you don't already have it, snag my free journal guide to get started! 

2. Find your true tribe!

Take an inventory of the people in your life. Are they supportive of your growth? Do they help you become a better you? Do they know the real you and love you for all your strengths, quirks, and weirdness? If not, it’s time to make a shift. Don’t waste any more time trying to convince people of your worthiness. Get around people who already know; they are your true tribe. 

3. Take a risk.

You can’t play big if you’re committed to staying small and safe! Go to that dance class that intimidates you. Ask a new friend out to coffee. Apply for the job. Make the damn thing. Commit to your growth + healing. Just make a move, girl! 

I dare you create your own ideal life; reject the role you were never meant to play and take the lead in your own life. Free yourself from the prison. Jump out of the box. Give yourself permission, I promise the only one keeping you small is you. 


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Immediately level-up your girl-gang by discovering your Safe People + A FREE worksheet!

Immediately level-up your girl-gang by discovering your Safe People + A FREE worksheet!

Four years ago I had just gone through the biggest friendship breakup. (The kind where passive letters are exchanged, people are deleted from social media, and theres an ache in the pit of your stomach. It wasn't pretty). The end of the friendship along with the major issues I had trusting women, boundary issues I had with my family, and fear of being truly known all pointed me to finally get my butt in therapy. 

In my first session, I was surprised my therapist asked, "who are your safe people?"

My safe people? 

As a vivacious extrovert, I had plenty of friends, but none that really knew me; none I felt completely myself around. In the midst of my social bubble, I felt completely alone. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn't know what healthy friendship looked like. I thought having petty drama in my life was normal!  I thought hiding who I was in my relationships out of fear was something everybody did. My "aha" moment started a long journey to developing boundaries, learning my safe people, and understanding where I truly began. 

Since, I have learned to align my life from the inside out. I’ve become my own friend first; finally living according to my values and have put myself first. I've shifted my friendships from a mile wide and an inch deep, and now go a mile deep and an inch wide. 

I’ve learned that my energy and love are resources I need to honor! My closest friendships are sacred, meaningful, and most of all, safe. I can be myself and trust I'll be loved. I never worry about gossip or drama. 

If you struggle feeling secure in your girl-gang, like you could use a boundaries boost, or like you simply want to up-level your circle of influence, give attention to your inner circle! Be intentional about your girl-gang and who you consider "safe."

Snag my free "Safe People" worksheet and get started cultivating an epic girl-gang where you feel fully known and fully loved!

 

 

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Winning the BYCA CEO Shine Award

"The Shine Award is given to the Beautiful You Life Coach that CEO & Founder Julie Parker believes most embodies the qualities of a Beautiful You Coach and consistently shows heart, commitment and authentic effort in serving their clients and building their business."

This year I was a finalist in two categories at the Beautiful You Coaching Academy Awards Gala: International Coach of The Year along with the CEO Shine Award... and...

I was handpicked by Julie Parker alongside Amy Mackenzie to receive the Shine Award!

I could not be more humbled and honored to stand by my sista Amy and share this recognition.

(Is there anything sweeter than being acknowledged by your mentor as embodying the heart and spirit of authenticity!? I think not.)

Having the opportunity to grow, learn, and work alongside each of the women who were selected as finalists has been the greatest honor. It is truly a gift to be in a community of women who desire to lift one another higher and champion each other to shine. 

That's what this is all about for me.

It's when women of all religions, colors, sizes, and personalities have the space to be known, join in a sisterhood, and explore their own uniqueness. It's letting go of what we "should" be like, look like, act like, and embrace all of what it means FOR US to come alive. 

Julie, Amy and I at the BYCA Inspiration Day in 2016

Julie, Amy and I at the BYCA Inspiration Day in 2016

Receiving the Shine Award means the most to me though, because of the transformation this coaching journey has brought into my life. I had no idea the ride I would be taking when I decided to become a coach a little over 2 years ago. Julie Parker our "goddess mum" and CEO taught me how to be a coach, how to believe in myself, how to shine, be known in this industry with integrity, and beyond those things, taught me it’s okay to be your own brand of woman, to be fierce and sassy and feminine and witty. Julie gave me permission to see the world bigger and realize that I, too, can play big. 

If you're reading this, thank you for following my journey and being a part of changing my life in every way imaginable. Keep shining. 

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